We all love the thought of that don’t we? “A marriage made in heaven.”
It makes us think of a couple, happily married, not a problem in their lives…. living in total bliss. While that sounds absolutely amazing it isn’t exactly the marriage I was referring to. I am referring to the marriage between Confidence and Public Speaking.
Facing My Confidence & Public Speaking Gremlins
Recently, I took the challenge of expanding my confidence level by doing my first online teleseminar. I had wanted to do one for a long time and use them as a way of reaching people with my message but I had used every excuse in the book to avoid it. At the end of the day I had a lot to say but not the confidence in my expertise to say it online through a teleseminar.
Rewind to a few months ago when my mentor put her coaching clients in the hot seat and challenged each of us to “just do” a teleseminar. She knew that for many of us we were procrastinating and we actually had what it took, so she issued a challenge.
I decided it was fate and I signed up. Oh at first I thought, “How hard can it be?” “What’s the big deal?” But as time went on I realized that it was going to take a little finesse to pull it together at the level I like to deliver content. Quitting or changing my mind was not an option for me, so off I went in my researching mode.
I picked my teleseminar provider, chose my email marketing provider to capture contact information and created a landing page on my website. Once all of the components were in place I needed to define my content. I was thinking to myself, “Oh, this is the easy part.” And for the most part I knew what I wanted to say but I wanted it to be as informative as possible. I continued to critique and edit right up until an hour before the teleseminar.
The moment of truth arrived and I will admit that I was nervous. Would I remember to hit the record button to make a recording of the call? Would I remember to change the slides at just the right time? Would I stumble on my words? Oh, and heaven forbid, that someone asked me a question that I didn’t know the answer to. That’s always the real fear isn’t it? What happens if I don’t know the answer to a question and the audience thinks I’m a fraud?
Well, I’m happy to report that none of that was the case. (Maybe some of you were even on the call.) I did remember to hit the record button and change the slides at the right time. I didn’t stumble on my words and no one asked me a question I couldn’t answer.
Are you thinking to yourself, “Yeah, but what if they had”?
Do you want to know my secret?
How did I get through it without having a meltdown?
I made a decision going into the event that if that were to happen I would deal with it by doing the following:
- I would let the person know that they asked a really good question.
- Next I would express my own curiosity to find the answer.
- Lastly, I would promise that once I found the answer I would send it to the group in an email
The marriage between confidence and public speaking is a timeless one. Oh it has its ups and downs but you can’t successfully have one without the other. Public speaking has its challenges but I can tell you from my latest experience that it also has its rewards. I received so much positive feedback from the group that I couldn’t help but feel like I had won the lottery. I was filled with pride, confidence and a desire to do it again real soon.
Many people want to do public speaking but can’t find the courage. Most of the time it requires the courage to walk through their fear into a place that doesn’t feel comfortable. In essence, it takes confidence.
It requires confidence in your topic, confidence in your content and confidence in your expertise level.
Topic – When you are in a job that requires you to do some sort of speaking to a group, it can be nerve-wracking. Often the topic isn’t a problem because a supervisor chooses it for you. It can also be a situation where the topic is selected based on what the market wants and needs. But topic is really the easy part, right? Let’s discuss content.
Content -When speaking on a topic that you are knowledgeable about the content is more time-consuming than anything else. The length of time necessary to create your content will depend upon if you are presenting only in audio, audio and some type of visual or in person with props. When building your content, don’t be shy. This is the area that your creative juices can really flow. Get creative, be artistic and really let your strengths and personality shine through.
Expertise – The final component and the one I am focusing on today is your expertise. It is in this area that many people become fearful when asked to do a presentation. It is the kind of fear that paralyzes them into NOT taking action.
We all have knowledge in our career and our life that we know like the back of our hand. We can spout facts, figures and statistics until the cows come home, feeling extremely confident in what we are saying. When we are sharing this information with family and friends we speak in a tone of certainty and conviction. Somehow though, when we are required to make a planned presentation to a group of people we don’t know we can become flustered and second-guess our “expertise”.
Fear around whether we know enough rears its ugly head and we begin doubting ourselves. The confidence level we have in our knowledge can be a tricky thing. Do you ever feel like you have a lot to say but when you finally have the opportunity to say it you clam up? You’re not alone. That’s because what most people don’t realize is that confidence is a skill that has to be built. It isn’t something we are born with.
Don’t Be Afraid To Make Your Mark
In the future, don’t let the fear of whether you feel you are an expert in a specific area determine if you are willing to share your knowledge with the world. Nervousness is part of the process at first. It’s okay… just walk through it. It just means you care. You will make it to the other side, I promise. If everything doesn’t go exactly as planned, no worries. Go with the flow and make adjustments the next time. If you have a solid plan and stick to it you will have an amazing experience.
As a result of this process it became evident that many people just need to have a little help in building their confidence, (or a challenge in my case), as a way to feel comfortable in adding public speaking to their business model. Recently my business partner, MaryAnn, and I developed a confidence building self-study program that is perfect for anyone looking to take their confidence and public speaking skills to the next level. It is called, “Confidence Inside and Out – Have Both In 5 Transformational Steps”.
The skills you will learn through our program can be applied to all aspects of your life. You can use it to strengthen your public speaking skills as we’ve already discussed, become a better negotiator or even get a promotion in your job. The skills you will learn are meant to be used in all aspects of your life.
I am hoping that you will take my experience of walking through my fear to do an online teleseminar and use it as inspiration in your own life. Please don’t let fear keep you from sharing your knowledge with the world. Instead, feel empowered to keep sharing, teaching and growing just as I am. You are an expert in your own life and there are many people in the world that can benefit from your unique life experience.
This gift to you will get you rolling in the direction of increased confidence and better public speaking skills. I hope you enjoy it. Feel free to give the link to anyone that you feel could use a boost in his or her confidence level.
Now go share your expertise…. the world is waiting!
To Your Success,
Karen Pattock is a successful business woman that has launched 7 successful companies. Her passion is guiding health coach entrepreneurs through the initial critical years in business using her proven methods. She provides expertise in marketing, business building, client attraction and list building.
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