For me, this is the first day of my 12-day vacation. Mike and I are heading off to our home in Arizona to take a little rejuvenation break. We’ve both been working really hard and need a rest period to reconnect and enjoy our favorite place on the planet.
Before heading off for a little R&R… I wanted to tell you about the BIG mistake I was making in my business over the past few months that was dramatically harming me and my mindset.
First… a little background information.
Four weeks ago I joined a paid mastermind group that is designed to kick my business butt into gear. Of course there was a goal setting exercise, (which was no problem for me… I’m all about the goals).
But there was also a visioning exercise that frustrated the hell out of me.
I was supposed to create a vision board of what I wanted my life to look like in the future. What things would I have then
that I don’t have now?
I felt like a monkey trying to do a math problem. No matter how hard I tried to do this exercise I was 100% blocked. Nothing was coming to my mind. I’m not kidding… NOTHING!
I get it… the first way to hit a target is to define what that target looks like. But for the life of me I couldn’t create a vision board.
I have already worked hard to design my life and business the way I wanted it, so what else could I need? (Problem approach #1.)
I started asking around to my fellow online marketing colleagues. I wanted to know if visioning was part of their routine. (Problem approach #2.)
During my investigation I found that most successful entrepreneurs use visioning to focus on certain future financial or income goals.
So I worked hard to incorporate that into my vision. MAJOR FAIL!
I won’t bore you with the nitty-gritty details but suffice it to say I’ve never felt so out of alignment with who I am in my entire life.
For a while I stopped loving my business. DOUBLE MAJOR FAIL!
The first thing I noticed is that I had fallen into a trap without even realizing it. The trap of comparison-itis.
In business it’s easy to look at those that are doing better than you and compare yourself.
Yep! That was me, and all I wanted to know is how had this happened?
I’ve never prescribed to that line of thinking BUT in trying to declare a vision, based on revenue generated, I began to use a form of comparison to gauge how my progress was going.
Think about the sport of football. Football is a career built on comparison.
One day you are on top and the next you’re not. Fans turn their back on you in the blink of an eye because they are always comparing you to the next guy that has better stats than you do.
In the world of online marketing the competition is fierce if you’re always trying to outperform those around you.
Let’s talk about the symptoms of comparison-itis. They start with:
Am I good enough?
Do you love me?
Do I make you proud?
You find yourself engaging in a constant and uncontrollable need to compare yourself to, critique and even insult others.
In my world that meant that I felt the need to compare and critique myself on a daily basis.
When I declared a vision for myself, I set a financial goal because that’s what everyone else was doing.
That caused me to check my income numbers daily, which became a pass or fail grade depending on the day. It was like “Okay Karen, are you going to like yourself today or aren’t you?” (Talk about pressure!)
Just like the football player… I either loved or was disappointed in my performance each day.
So here’s the scoop!
Being forced to engage in a visioning activity led to a major breakthrough “aha” moment about myself.
Are you ready for it?
While I am all about the numbers, and revenue matters to me, it’s not the main driving force for me in my business. My vision needed refining KP style.
In declaring a financial vision I felt completely out of alignment and for a few months I wasn’t having any fun in my business…. AT ALL!
Each day started with how am I ‘earning a buck’ today.
I realized that the main driving force in my business is teaching, giving value, helping other business owners demystify online marketing and sharing a solid strategy that will take their business to the next level.
My driving force is a feeling of giving and receiving value and appreciation.
I remember now… that’s why I started my business.
My success is measured by so much more than just the revenue I generate.
I’m so glad I was pushed into this exercise because it has reminded me of who I am at my core and my overall purpose on this planet. That’s a KP style vision board… no doubt about it!
And that my friend is a priceless gift!
The moral of the story…
If you feel at all like you are out of alignment in your life, business or both, it’s time to do the hard work and figure out what’s off and then FIX IT!